My first year teaching, I was trying to establish myself in my new school community. Sure, my seventh-grade students were making it very difficult to form a rapport with them, but surely I could connect with students in other grades. Right? As is customary, teachers, outside of their classroom responsibilities, also help with other campus needs—student council moderator, sports coach, PTA liaison. On this particular day, I was in the recess yard providing supervision, and I said “Hello” to a young student on the play yard. They happened to be the sibling of one of my pupils. Up until this point, we had always had a friendly relationship, talking during recess about shoes, favorite colors, and book characters. But on this day they said, “I’m not allowed to talk to you anymore. My mom doesn’t want me to.” I wonder how Nursery Management Software works in the real world?
I was devastated, completely flabbergasted by this response. I couldn’t imagine that this student had been privy to the conflict between myself and her mom—a disagreement over the rigor of my math instruction which, by the end of the year, was fully resolved and resulted in a supportive relationship that thrives to this day. But in that moment the truth was that clearly this child had been brought into grown-up conversations that permeated her young world and put up a wall between our school rapport. Another time, a student in my class said to me, very casually I might add, in the middle of the school hallway as we were walking outside for dismissal, that his parents told him that I was anorexic. “You have an eating disorder, right?” How do you think they keep the Nursery App ticking all the boxes?
One morning, early in the year, a parent interrupted my grammar lesson to confront me about a story going around that I had made out with the Spanish teacher in front of their child’s class. And, there was the constant speculation that I was leaving midyear as I was pregnant with twins. Educators encounter situations of student-to-student gossip, rumor, and bullying daily. But sometimes the beehive is buzzing more because of parents’ doing more than that of the students. How do you handle your conversations with the parents whose company you enjoy? What about your relationship with those who annoy you? When you are privy to news about another family, witness drama in another family’s life, what do you do? How about Childcare Management System to run your business?
In two out of three of these scenarios, your answer should be to simply say nothing at all. That’s what I did in each of the instances above. I always responded with truth—“No, I am not pregnant.” “No, I am not in a romantic relationship with a coworker.” “I would be happy to speak with your mom and dad about my physical appearance if they would like.” And, “Wow—I am really sad that your mom doesn’t want us to talk at recess anymore.” But beyond that, I left all gossip where it should be. Silent—no oxygen continually giving it life. No defensiveness to somehow fuel ongoing speculation. Just silence. How about purchasing Preschool Software to manage your pre-school setting?
What do you do in situations like this? I have made it my mission as a teacher, and now administrator, to expect from my students that they act with kindness and compassion, integrity, and character. Gossip within my classroom was unacceptable, as were idle rumors and stories that served no purpose other than to place said subject in a compromising light. In fact, my go-to strategy as both a teacher and a principal is whenever any student speaks negatively about either themselves (self-deprecation) or others, to have them write twenty-five positive adjectives for that person. To be honest, I cannot recall what was the catalyst for the formulation of this strategy. Was it the panic I had and still have over how students treat one another? How can we, as humans, be so ready with criticism for ourselves or those we encounter? Adding Nursery Software to the mix can have a real benefit.